I am adding a new chapter to my life and of course to the sequel of Bound Between Love.
I hired a new editor who arrived from Cape Cod. He began working with me on my book, assisting me in putting the final touches on Bound Between Love. During the process of working together our business relationship grew into a deeply abiding friendship, and before we both knew it we were head over heels in love.
David Webster of Hyannis, Massachusetts proposed marriage to me on Valentine’s Day and by now I had no doubt that at age 61 I have finally met my soul mate. David and I will be married on April 14th, 2012 in an undisclosed location, in an intimate ceremony with our closest family members and friends in attendance. It is our desire to have this as our personal day without interference from the media. A formal ceremony is planned with a glorious reception to follow. We will delay our honeymoon until this summer with a trip planned to Lake Louise and Banff in Alberta, Canada.
David and I are planning to make our summer residence on Cape Cod and our permanent residence in California. David is not only an editor but an incredible Author and Screenwriter. His love and support in all areas of my life through his gentle persuasion has encouraged me to continue my human rights work, writing, journalistic pursuits, and acting.
What is most incredible in our meeting is that David learned every detail about my life while working on my book, so no explanations were necessary. I am happier than I have ever been in my life and I am truly grateful that he has arrived. For many years I searched for love and looked in all the wrong places. This time I wasn’t looking and was quite surprised when he entered my life and fell in love unconditionally. He is my best friend and then everything else.
We have instructed my agent Jennifer Etherton not to release any further information until after our wedding and only then will she release a statement to the press.
Please share in our joy as we begin this new journey in our pursuit of happiness.
My Warmest Regards,
Sometime late March or early April I will begin a publicity tour to promote THE FOUNDATION FOR INTERNATIONAL JUSTICE and of course BOUND BETWEEN LOVE, the autobiography and upcoming feature film. This will be a US tour originating in Florida, with stops in major cities across the US including Washington, DC and ending with my final return to California. I am available for television and radio interviews, forums, universities, churches, and schools, and LGBTQI organizations.
This tour will begin on the heels of my Civil Rights Lawsuit moving from a Notice Of Intent to Sue to the filing of the actual suit filing in the Federal Court in Panama City, Florida.
We are already responding to interview and speaking engagement requests in an attempt to organize travel arrangements. Of course I will be traveling with my body-guard and editor David Webster. Please contact my Agent Jennifer Etherton to book early at firstname.lastname@example.org or call (718) 269 – 5278. There is no charge for engagements at this time but travel expenses and accomodations must be furnished.
Thank you to all of my dear friends, supporters, and fans who have supported me through this entire process. Without your support this would not have been possible. Please welcome my new editor and dear friend David to our family. I am excited to have him on board as he works tiresly to assist me in the completion and final rewrite of Bound Between Love as well as all four of the newest novels underway. This will prove to be an exciting and interesting New Year. David is also completing his novel based on a true life story and has already completed a screenplay based on the his book. In truth we inspire each other to new heights in our vision for a more loving world through the writing and educating process. I can’t be more thrilled to have made a new friend who has accepted me with unconditional love and a strong desire to support me in this sometimes difficult task.
Of course in addition to David we have my Agent Jennifer Etherton, Screenwriter Monica Sun of Shadow Majic Films/20th Century Fox who has taken my story into the Screenwriting program at UCLA under the supervision of Awary Winning Screenwriter Iris Yamishita (Letters From Iwo Jima,) for completion later this spring. We are currently reviewing film offers from major producers and film companies. Once again please contact Jennifer with all considerations.
I am truly grateful for the consideration from one of the top ten producers and directors existing in this world today and we are expecting to see a letter of intent signed before the end of the year to produce and direct this first of its kind Transgender story on the big screen. When this journey began in 1998 I never dreamed that at the end of the nightmare there would be a rainbow with an overflowing pot of love, respect, and support existing or that my story would garner so much attention around the world. In fact, I was on the verge of giving up many times as the nightmare seemed to worsen yet for some unknown reason I persisted and pushed even harder for the appearance and discovery of the truth. After 15 years the tides turned and the ultimate victory is now visible on the horizon.
During this process I became determined to see all humans treated with the same equality and dedicate the remainder of my life to put an end to discrimination of all forms. All humans have the inherent right to dignity, equality, and the right to be their authentic selves without fear. No human should have to live in constant fear of reprisal because they differ from the majority. They should be free to follow their dreams and establish a successful life. To be denied housing, proper medical care, employment, or face the insane fear of being beaten, executed, or murdered in the year of 2012 should not even be a remote possibility. It is unfathomable that such strong ignorance and hate should still exist in a country which espouses freedom and opportunity. Were we not known around the world as the land of opportunity? Do we not claim to be a World Leader? How can we truly be a world leader and work to stamp out injustice, hate crimes, and discrimination around the world until we ourselves provide the example. I learned early on in life that a true leader leads by example and that we can only manage assets, not people.
As we begin this journey through our US Tour we will speak on the issue of the American Human Rights Act of 2012. Yes, I know it is only a dream at this point, yet it is the one dream I will hold onto until I speak it into existence. Please join with us and make your voices heard in Washington. I appreciate the work that’s been completed in the existing State by State approach taken by our civil rights organizations but until we see the passage and signature ratifying and amending the Constitution our rights are never truly guaranteed and can be stripped away by any new administration.
LIFE IS WONDERFUL AND EVERYTHING IN IT IS A FORM OF BEAUTY.
I look forward to meeting and speaking with each of you across this envisioned great Union of ours.
For most of my life I existed in a paralyzing fear that I survived in an imitation of life. I never felt safe to be my authentic self and announce to the world that I am an intersexed transgender female. Life in most ways was a burden created not by my shame, guilt, and personal self loathing but by my owning the beliefs of others. With a relentless furor I was told that I had a mental illness, had been condemned to hell for changing what God created, was a disgrace, and somehow a pervert caught in deviant behavior. Every stereotypical denigrating comment deepened my shame until I was convinced that I was less than human. In addition I lived with a deep inner sadness that I was never able to give birth to a child, experience a menstruation period, or to become a mother and grandmother. Over the years I have delved into the innermost recesses of my being and found something quite different as I finally began to question my own self-worth as a human being. As I began the journey to a necessary healing process I began to visually see that this shadow of my true self had lasting value. I found a loving, gentle person, who had contributed a great deal to society as a whole. At every step in my life I had attempted to treat those around me with kindness, generosity, and patience while lifting those around me to new-found heights. I had shared everything I’d learned that made me successful after learning that we are never truly successful in life until we are willing to assist others in achieving their own greatness. I found no deviant behavior and certainly didn’t suffer from a mental illness. I began to remember who I truly was before this awful nightmare began. This has been a long road to full awareness of Erica Kay and as I became more aware the Imitation of Life has fallen to the wayside crumbling like a bomb damaged building from a war zone.
As a child growing up in the 50″s and in a family where communication of these types of issues could never be discussed I lived with this shame for much too long. I began to fight for my freedom from the beliefs of others and have emerged from the ashes after watching my life burn to the ground. It is a rebirth of sorts as I formed my own beliefs and carefully defined who and what I would become.
Much of my life was lived without complete honesty about my entire being. Instead of being proud of the human being I was, I tortured myself in this misguided shame. I had to ask some pretty tough questions during this entire process of self discovery and this is what I found. For some of you, you will remember the great classic film Imitation of Life, the story of a young black girl raised within a white community who could pass easily as a white girl and did just that only to be outed as a black repeatedly by her own Mother. In this film she was raised by a black mother working in a white privileged household whose mother was a maid and the best friend of the white employer. Unless you have walked in the shoes of discrimination you may have difficulty understanding the desire to be anything different from a condemned class. For those of you who are not familiar with the film, it is a must see. Because I was always considered a beautiful woman who could easily pass as a biological female (normal,) I chose the easy way out and languished in my secret. It was only to those closest to me that I would share my painful and most protected secret until I was finally outed by the tabloids in 1997. Those tabloids forced my resistance to ever go public with this sacred information by the wayside in one day. My secret was now going around the world in a frenzy of media attention.
After 4 years in prison when my marriage was invalidated as a same-sex marriage for theft of community property (an automobile,) I began to fight back. I studied the law and filed my own habeas corpus and later a civil rights suit in the Federal Courts challenging my conviction. Eventually but years later my conviction was wiped clean. The tabloids repeatedly surfaced destroying my life not once, but four times, my arrest and conviction in Florida which was later overturned, and a complete nervous breakdown, I finally said “enough is enough.” I finally became prepared to tell my entire life story in Bound Between Love. Writing my story has been vital to the healing process and has spurred me on to become an activist determined to see a TRUE HUMAN RIGHTS ACT to the US Constitution protecting the rights of all humans residing in the United States passed into law.
It was during my healing process that I came to realize that everything I’d carried for too many years was not established by me. I had absorbed the fear, shame, and loathing from the comments and beliefs of some very ignorant, hateful, and cruel persons in this world. I have watched religion and discrimination single others out so they could feel superior in their arrogance of separation. I also witnessed this during my earlier years in the treatment of Blacks, Hispanics, Jews, and Asians. Today we also see these same beliefs attacking Muslims, Hindu’s, and many others who are not Fundamentalist Christians or right-wing conservatives.
What is it about humanity that would cause many to see other humans below other humans with a need to control their way of life? Actually, I am ashamed of those who would tell others that if you are different from me in any way, there is no room for you in our world. I am incensed at this attitude which kept me trapped in a relentlessly deep torment and in an increasingly devastating fear for almost 60 years. This is what caused me to live an imitation of life while suffering a needless shame in silence. I was born and experienced life as a transgender in a different era.
Today we have young children born with the transgender birth condition or intersexed who have the loving support of their families who have sought the assistance of properly trained medical professionals who are familiar with this birth condition which is enabling four, five, and six years olds to live their authentic lives. I am deeply grateful and proud of the parents of these young children who will prevent their children from experiencing years of needless shame and guilt.
We are growing and changing in this new world but not fast enough. Around the world the ignorance which creates devastating hate and the deaths of so many innocent victims whether through murder, violent attacks, or the emotional scaring of another human must cease. This concept of reparative therapy or beating someone back into another’s version of normal, or simply hating because of differences is insane.
President Obama and his administration has leaped into the future of protections for all humans taking a strong stand for the LGBTQ community during his first term in office and the right-wing would love nothing better than to see him out of office so that our rights can be stripped once again. I keep hearing the Republicans blaming our economy on President Obama. This is crazy, have they forgotten that the economy had already collapsed prior to him taking office. I imagine they would like us to forget. I am one who has a long memory. I do support him for re-election yet believe he can do more and should to guarantee the rights of all humans through the introduction and passage of a true and complete human rights bill.
We are fighting the same fight as Martin Luther King and our African-American community of the 50’s and 60’s. I am asking you to stand with me as we open the Foundation For International Justice and as we take our pleas to Washington this coming year. We must first find a willing participant in Congress to write and introduce the bill. The time to unite has arrived and I am pleading for your support in whatever way you can contribute. I also ask you to support Obama for re-election in 2012.
Let us change the world together.